Not Your Therapist

It’s Not About the Puppies: Why You Overcommit When You’re Already Drowning

Kayla Reilly MSW, LCSW

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You’re overwhelmed.
 Your schedule is full.
 You’re already stretched thin…

…and somehow, you still say yes to more.

In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re breaking down why people overcommit when they’re already drowning — and why this isn’t actually a time management problem.

Using a real-life example (yes… including fostering puppies at the worst possible time), we dive into the deeper psychology behind overcommitment, people-pleasing, and the hidden belief that “I don’t matter.”

Because the truth is:
 You’re not doing too much because you’re capable.
 You’re doing too much because slowing down feels uncomfortable.

We’ll cover:

  •  Why overcommitment is often emotional avoidance 
  •  The link between overfunctioning and self-worth 
  •  How staying busy protects you from deeper feelings 
  •  The subtle ways you abandon yourself without realizing it 
  •  One simple question to help you start choosing differently 

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why did I say yes to this?” — this episode is for you.

This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤

Have thoughts, questions, or a topic you want covered? Or want to share how this episode supported you?

Email me at kayla@evolutionwellnessnc.com
or find me on social at @itskaylareilly. I genuinely love hearing what you’re navigating. ✨